Adult Children of Heterosexuals Meeting
Callan Williams, Facilitator
Transgender & Recovery,
Southern Comfort 1994
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Outline:

What is Recovery
AA
12 Steps
Rehab
Chronological History

What do we need to recover?
Sobriety?
Function?
Self?
Recover from what?
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Hole In The Soul.

Fractured Sense Of Self.

Hi, I'm Chellis, and I'm in Recovery From Western Civilization.
Chellis Glendinning

Natural Rhythms
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Society's Goals:
Drones, Peons
SERVE THE MACHINE!

Human Goals:
A joyous, full and connected life!
Burning Through.

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I've been searching for something
Taken out of my soul.
Something I would never lose.
Something somebody stole.
The River Of Dreams,
Billy Joel

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If you are too concerned with the outcome, you can't work the process.

Mourning For Lost Images

Do you really care if love comes in a blue box or a pink bottle?
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The Loss Of
The Handmade Life.

Replacement by objects
Becoming dependent on the objects

The Red Shoes, Pinkola-Estes

Addiction/Shame

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the search for altered states to assuage the hunger.

Dali:
I don't need drugs.
I am drugs.

LOVE/FEAR

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Higher
Power.

God, as we know her.

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I never got my schooling confused with my education.
Mark Twain.

I never got my religion confused with my spirituality.
Callan Williams

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We must dare to be ourselves, no matter how strange or frightening that self may appear to be.
May Sarton

the primary duality

WILD -/- TAME

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The Inner Darkness.

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The Process Of
Becoming Human

Deconstruct
Reconstruct
Live!

Your job is not to seek for love, but rather to seek within you for the barriers you hold to its coming.
ACIM
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What Do You Surrender To?

What Do You Relinquish Control To?

In control and out of control are not contradictory.

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Paths

-- AA/12 Step
-- Buddha
-- Psychology Books
-- Love Books
-- ACIM
-- New Age
-- On, and on, and on
A Respect for Naturalness.
Honor Our Humanity.
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12 Step Issues

-Continued Objectification
-God Trap
-Just Say No!

The Rehab Rap:
Never recovered!

Today there seem to be too many choices -- So we are constantly upset that we made the wrong one.
Erica Jong, Fear of Fifty
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Basic Lessons
-- Balance
-- Respect
-- Love
But first: For You!

Attitudes are caught --
not taught.
Fred Rogers

How are you infected?
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The Primary Duality.

WILD!

anarchy is the sacred fount of life!

TAME!

One of the oldest human needs is
having someone to wonder where you are
when you don't come home at night.
Margaret Mead

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Gender is Gender.
Accepting your humanity is not just accepting the nice parts of your humanity.
Understand your shadow selves.
Carl Jung (Shakti Gawain)

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We are all made of God.
We pass the gift of God to others.
And they pass it back to us.
Erica Jong
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Joseph Campbell

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Jungian Tales
The stories that come out of our collective unconscious.

SYMBOLS/REALITIES
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Summary:

The unexamined life is not worth living.

The perceptions we choose shape our lives.

All is the same.

Everything is nothing.

Nothing is everything.