Violating Manhood


Subject: Violating Manhood
From: TheCallan (callanw@crosswinds.net)
Date: Wed 20 May 1998 - 16:13:58 BST

Another position against transgender expression, from another viewpoint.

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"In my work, I see lots of kids who think they are transgendered. I accept
them at their word of course, but so many of these kids have been abused,
forced to act in a submissive, a feminine position, that they think that is
who they are. They have had their masculininity stripped from them, and so
they believe that's who they are.

"It's much like the transsexuals who have so much internalized homophobia that
they have to act as women in order to be with a man, or the men who are so
homophobic that they can only be with a man if he pretends he is a woman.
Some men play the role of women just to get sex, denying their true manhood.

"A man who thinks he has to act like a woman in order to be himself is misled
and mistaken. He perpetuates steretotypes that have always plagued gay men,
that somehow they are women, inverts, swishy, which is untrue -- gay men are
as manly as any other man in this culture. Real gay men don't wear pantyhose
and pumps, trying to fool straight men into sex, but when these men-in-dresses
show that, people are confused and we suffer because of it.

"When these people go out and show themselves to people who don't understand
they are really men, they create problems for gay men everywhere -- after all,
look at the tapes the moralists use to chararaterize and scare people about
homosexuality, featuring these queens.

"There are manly hearted women and feminine men, of course, and there always
will be, but when they think they have to change sex or gender to attract and
satisfy sexual partners, they have lost themselves and created a problem for
the gay community at large. They need therapy, like in the DSM IV, to help
find thier true selves, overcome their internalized homophobia and get over
these transgender delusions"

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